Good evening fellow toastmasters…
Make the most of yourself, for that’s all there is of you by Ralp Waldon Emerson.
This is the first quote that I swear by daily, given to me by one of my lecturers before I graduate. Its been eight years now yet I have not gathered enough courage to ask her why she gave me this. But my guess is this. She probably thinks that I am a lifelong pusher. This used to be very true. I struggled with myself. I used to simply do things for the sake of it, without asking myself if I enjoy it. It took me four years after I got the card to realize that I was doing was wrong.
Have anyone of you felt the same way as me before? Raise of hands if anyone in this room has felt any of the following:
- Life promotes unrealistic physical expectations : rat race, expectations from family etc
- Not enough time for everything
- Used to not give yourself enough care
So I spoke to some friends about it. One of my good friends told me that I needed help. Instead of dragging me to a psychologist’s office, she recommended a few self help books and a couple of videos on TedTV. I starting reading and watching them. Somehow, writing comes naturally and I will explain later on how it happened.
I write because I am confused. I am lost as to how to approach life and to move forward. Picture this. We are all in the train sandwiched with one another and yet we can hear the SMRT staff saying ‘Please move in’ multiple times. I do not understand neither the commuters nor the staff. I try to understand their situation and perhaps write about them. I may be wrong, but it does help me to understand people better.
Lastly, I write because it lets me be naked, unmasked by all the criteria that life expects. Writing allows me to feel good about where we’re at and what we’ve done. When we honor ourselves, we don’t need to push quite as hard, because we’re motivated less by dissatisfaction and more by a deep self-love that reminds us just how much is possible.
Fellow toastmasters, finding passion is not easy. Some of us are lucky enough to discover them young, some of them naturally enjoys what they do and are good at it. But for the rest of us. It requires some effort. I urge each one of you to watch Sir Ken Robinson on Tedtv. He has written a few books and spoke a few times on TedTv on passion, public education and self-discovery. And I would like to share with you the important conditions to take in order to find ourselves and the element where your natural talent meets your personal passion.
- Diversity of Intelligence: (Feel)
- Area that is not fully understood
- Capacity to recognize our own feelings, and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions in ourselves and in our relationships
- Ignite our passion and inspire the best in us
- Allow us to be self aware about what is happening around us and how to respond to situations
- Power of imagination: (Believe)
- Imagining the endpoint before reaching it
- Sportspeople are trained to imagine their timings, goals before their competition starts (That’s how I manage to finish my 10km in 70mins)
- Joseph Schooling imagined his timing before his race too
- Creativity: Doing something about it rather than lying around thinking about it
- Admit that you don’t know and Ask the experts
- Make mistakes, learn from them and start all over
- Ask why and be in the moment
- Believe that everything happens for a reason, opportunities lead to where you are and respond to them
- You take them more willingly if they respond to your own aptitudes and responsibilities.
- You are what you choose to become, not your past, not your current situation, be the change you want to see
- Commitment to finding our own capabilities:
- Strong sense of perseverance
- Run towards it with faith
- If others tell you ‘No’, you cannot achieve this
- Then you get yourself to somewhere quiet and meditate (Not in lotus position)
- Speak to yourself and connect and be honest with yourself and seek the truth
- Find the one reason why you can do it. Doesn’t matter if it makes no sense to anyone else.
- Confront yourself, make the right decision and do it
Now, I urge all of you, when you get home, while you are showering or before you get to bed, be grateful for what life has offered and find your passion, if you have yet to find it. Life is your talents discovered. Find them and work towards it. Don’t worry about the financial returns. Just do it to lead a fulfilling life because the most magical thing you can do for our world is to make the most of yourself.
Go and live the life you’ve imagined.
Thank you and back to you Mr Toastsmasters.