Pathways Project 3: Feedback: Dynamic Leadership: ‘Sell Yourself’ by Brand

Good evening, fellow Toastmasters, guests and friends, I have a miracle pill to sell you. It will help you win more, earn more, be happier, have more fulfilling relationships and most importantly, be you. It’s a revolutionary new pharmaceutical product called ‘Sell yourself’ by Brand. Just one dose a day, will allow you to change your life and maybe open up more doors for you to change the lives of others.

All jokes aside, every one of us in this room has been judged before. It is human nature, after all, to judge those who naturally do not do what we do, or do not compile to our way of thinking. Many times in my life, I have been judged by people whom I hardly know – not good enough, not confident enough, not assertive enough, they say. In the past, it used to hurt me. Or even make me feel angry. Who are they to judge me? What do they know about me? I would scream in my head, lots of noise, lots of neural activity, lots of clutter in my head.

But isn’t that where the problem lies? They hardly know me. And so, I decided to change things – and the way I decided to do it is by creating a personal brand – an image that I would want the outside world to carry of me. I am not talking about money, number of followers, qualifications. The whole world has achieved more than me. I am talking about making an impact, having a reputation that is in your good name. What people would say about you when you are not there. That’s your share price on the stock market of life.

Often enough, early in the morning, when it is still dark outside around 5.30am, I would think about my plans for the day and think about how I want to tell my compelling story. Once I am done, I would get ready. For some people, they put one their powerful suits, makeup, shoes or have a cup of coffee. For me, I prefer to get to office early to gauge the room, audience  and body language. If need be, change the delivery.

What about me? I like solving problems. I love interacting with people. I am not talking about getting things done. I am talking about knowing each one of them as a person, understanding their concerns and problems. Then, I will try to deliver a little bit more than expected, at least, whenever your timeline allows it. That’s probably the reason why I am a consultant.

What about you? Have you thought about who you really are ? What are you good at?

How do you live by design not by default? How do you get started?

  1. Feel -Be self-aware of your emotions, where you want to be, who you want to be
    • Take ownership of your thoughts, goals, problems
  2. Say – Tell your story with your life..
    • Get their attention
    • Make sure it is memorable
  3. Think & Do – Think of how you can benefit others and be relevant to them

Know the weapons that you have. Don’t just talk about talents and qualifications. That’s putting in a grey box where it is difficult to stand out. Fight a different battle, using your unique DNA that is your own expertise, your knowledge that I don’t even dream of.

Your personal brand is actually your website, the way you deal with people, the way you talk, your dress code. Its all the messages that people gather about you when they interacted with you. That’s your red box.

Lastly, you should always work on expanding your network,. Let more people know more about you. Share your ideas and expertise with the world. Don’t be the world’s best kept secret. Focus on being the authentic you for everyone else is taken. Focus on that red box and hopefully we all continue to touch other lives in every phase of our lives and someday be the number one to go person for what you do.

You all have a piece of paper and a pen with you? Write down your chief aim and everything else in your head. Put it in your wallet or hang it on your wall. Remind yourselves to live that way now. You can change it later. But do it consciously and deliberately.

Thank you.

 

Evaluation for Pathways Project 2: Dynamic Leadership: How travelling shapes and transforms you

I did my second Pathway speech on the 19th January 2018. It was a week after I got back from my vacation and I was still recovering from cold and sore throat. Thankfully I did not exceed the time limit of seven minutes and was not coughing too much during that duration.

In general, I heard laughter in between my speech so that is good. It means that the audience are engaged as the topic is very much relevant. A senior toastmaster told me to stick to conversational type of speeches as they suit me well. I believe I will need to rehearse a little more before my presentation to ensure smooth transition of the speech. I would also need to work on linking the points together.

Here are the comments by the evaluator:

I excelled at: 

  • Choice of topic: Travel as the audience can relate to it easily
  • Painted a vivid picture even without the slides

You may want to work on:

  • Rehearsing the speech because there are many pause fillers. Refer to evaluation criteria in the next page

To challenge yourself:

  • Record and playback the video to spot the errors for improvements
  • Overall a good job on the speech

Notes from evaluation form:

  1. Clarity: Spoken language is clear and is easily understood:
    • Exemplary
    • Vivid and colourful language
  2. Vocal Variety: Uses tone, speed and volume as tools
    • Excels
    • Could have added more excitement
  3. Eye Contact: Effectively uses eye contact to engage audience
    • Excels
    • Could have moved across the stage
  4. Audience Awareness: Demonstrates awareness of audience engagement and needs
    • Exemplary
  5. Comfort Level: Appears comfortable with the audience
    • Exemplary
  6. Interest: Engages audience with interesting, well – constructed content
    • Exemplary

 

Pathways Project 2: Dynamic Leadership: Evaluation: How travelling shapes and transforms you

Unplugged – How traveling shapes and transforms you

Happy New Year, my friends, fellow toastmasters and guests! It’s that time of the year again, where we all recover from vacations. Criteo, a performance marketing company, reported that Singaporeans took an average of 5.2 trips in the past 12 months. That translates to an average of one trip every two to three months. Despite the high number, do we all know the real value of traveling? Or are we just traveling because we need time off, and hence we make plans to travel to the touristy places in the selected country?

Ever since I decided to start traveling solo, since about four years ago, I have learnt countless lessons. For a start, traveling exposes you to various communications styles. I am not talking about verbal communications but all forms of communications as well. I have been in Germany where I had to practice my German and made a cuckoo out of myself.

Thankfully, the locals were patient enough as I had to juggle between my dictionary and maps. That’s the good thing about spontaneous traveling, you get to focus on select ideas and also be flexible enough to change according to the various circumstances or factors. In this case, time, weather and personal interests. I can’t be visiting all 16 states in Germany in two weeks, so I decided to focus on the Bavarian region with priority given to nature.

In my humble opinion, travelling makes one modest. Humble in a sense, you have to remain curious and ask questions of people who may understand or know the city better than you do. In my recent trip, I took a train from Munich to Salzburg and made new local friends along the way. I asked for recommendations for local attractions. As I am such an avid trekker, I was urged to trek an untouched mountain 30 minutes away from the city centre.

I was told it was an easy walk. When I got to the destination, I was all alone, and the whole forest felt like mine. The land was really untouched. I was trekking all on my own till I met a local person along the way, when I was almost reaching the top. So yes, I trekked on my own by accident. But that aside, I don’t just gain freedom, but also new friendships plus knowledge about the city, Salzburg without the need of a tour guide! Am I lucky or what?

Living out of a suitcase, is worth the time and money. Traveling opens up the wonders of our world. I love the idea of how traveling connects us with culture. When in Australia, people go crazy over beef steak, animal sanctuaries. In Europe, we go crazy over cheese, how they solve socio economic problems and most importantly, chocolates. In Asia, we talk about exquisite food with their strong flavours.

What we don’t realize is, how traveling to explore far places actually brings us closer to who we really are. When we are born, we don’t have any social perceptions or stereotypes. We accept everything by heart. Then there are social actors such as families, schools, environments and governments that dictate our perception of life. But they forgot that we all have personalities and identities. For instance, we are proud Singaporeans. We are proud of our chilli crab, skyscrapers and strict regulations. Germans are proud of their beer. The French are always saying their country is better than any other in Europe.

It is only when we step into their country, that we put ourselves in their shoes, we start to see how close we actually are and how we share the same joys about similar things in life. We cannot change our nationality or languages. But we can always open our eyes and minds to understand the various historical, geographical, social and cultural effects of their different lifestyle practices.

Thomas Paine travelled and said “my country is my world, and my religion is to do good”. 1400 years ago, Muhammad said “Don’t tell me how educated you are, tell me how much you have travelled”.

My dear friends, I have travelled, you have travelled. Travel has inspired me to know countries, culture, languages and build communities. Most importantly, to do what I can to make a difference. In Germany, I was impressed at how the country does their best in terms of recycling. I try to recycle my things much more often than I used to before. In other words, it has helped me to become a better world citizen and hopefully a better person when I reconnect with myself and all of you. And I hope it can do the same for you.

Thank you.

 

 

Evaluation for Pathways Project 1: Dynamic Leadership: Starting at Ground Zero

I did my very first Pathways Project on 15th Sept. Here is the feedback from the evaluator. I took a two months break from Toastmasters and just got back on my feet. Hopefully, I will not forget whatever I have learnt. I still have a lot to master! Trying my best not to move around too much, giving eye contact and maintaining confidence. I also realized that I don’t perform well when I have a stressful week and suffered from lack of sleep. Got to bear those in mind!

General Comments:

  • Showing vulnerability.
  • Every speech you deliver is authentic and from the heart.

You may want to work on:

  • Greater eye contact and your physical movements.
  • There was some pacing around – try to remain in a certain area especially when emphasizing serious/ sad points

To challenge yourself:

  • Be more assertive and share confidently.
  • The lessons you learnt when you lost your job is a moment of opportunity to grow personally.
  • Embrace the chance to start at ground zero

Notes from the evaluation form. 

  1. Clarity: Spoken language is clear and is easily understood:
    • Excels at communicating using spoken word
    • Comments: Great visual metaphors such as ‘redeemed myself’
  1. Vocal Variety: Uses tone, speed and volume as tools:
    • Accomplished
    • Comments: Could have used lower tone to show sadness
  1. Eye Contact: Effectively uses eye contact to engage audience:
    • Excels at using eye contact to gauge audience reaction and response
    • Comments: Eye contact could have improved
  1. Gestures: Uses physical gestures effectively:
    • Excels at using physical gestures as a tool to enhance speech
    • Comments: Try to reduce pacing
  1. Audience Awareness: Demonstrates awareness of audience engagement and needs:
    • Fully aware of audience engagement/ needs and responds effectively
    • Comments: You are highly aware of the audience listening to you
  1. Comfort level: Appears comfortable with the audience:
    • Appears completely self-assured with the audience
    • Comments: Very comfortable with the audience
  1. Interest: Engages audience with interesting, well-constructed content:

Engages audience with interest with highly compelling, well-constructed

Pathways Project 1: Dynamic Leadership: Icebreaker: Starting at Ground Zero

Starting at Ground Zero

 

Tim Karsliyev once said, never chase what you want. Elevate your game until what you want pursues you.

This quote is one of the quotes that I live by daily and I try to live my life by it. I try to be consistent at my efforts and do my best to be 1% better every day.

My fellow toastmasters and friends, a year ago, I decided to join this club. Through the ten speeches in the CC module back then, I have laid my life before you in this very stage, sharing with you my life experiences and dreams. You know that my name is Farah Saleh and I am not named after a Charlie’s angel. Most of you know that I enjoy running, writing and travelling.

What most of you didn’t know was that this past one year has changed me. I am not who I thought I was back then. In fact, if it weren’t for the little bit I’ve learned over the past year, I wouldn’t have a clue. Fortunately, I do have a clue. Thanks to an open mind and the support of others, I’ve been able to wake up to a wonderful life, one in which I choose who I am, and what I do.

Not all of my days and nights are smooth and peaceful. I can still get emotionally overwhelmed over insignificant things. I can still spend sleepless nights with a chattering mind, feeling guilty and blaming myself for all the mistakes that I had made, forgetting that self- love is important to get you to your goals. Last year, the biggest turning point in my life was when I lost my job.  That very night, I laid in my bed and just let my thoughts flow freely.  The good, the bad, the ugly. I decided to not be happy. Happiness comes and go. But when life is really good and when things are really bad, having meaning is something that I can hold on to.

I decided to return to the core values that my parents have taught me.

  1. Belonging:
    1. Most essential source of meaning (bonds between families and friends)
  2. Purpose:
    1. Not a job but rather using your strengths to serve others. For most of us, it is through work. That is how we contribute and feel needed. But what happens if you lose your job? How do you find strength to rise up after you fall and move forward?
  3. Transcendence:
    1. Stepping beyond yourself, but in a completely different way, transcendence (States where you are lifted beyond the hustle and bustle of life), your sense of self fades away and you feel connected to a higher reality. For some of us, it can be through writing or religion or bringing up your family
  4. Story telling:
    1. Story you tell others about yourself
    2. Creating a narrative of your life events and then change the way we are telling them. After all, we are the authors of our life (reflect and change)

At this point in my life, I have redempted myself and started a new job in the field that I am most passionate about with new challenges and responsibilities. I have decided to create another chapter of my life by learning German.  Hence, I am starting over at ground zero, with hope to lead meaningful life and tell stories about my life defined by redemption, growth and love.

Danke fürs Zuhören und Guten Nacht which means thank you for listening and good night in German.